We help you find answers to conflict so you can move on!

Searching for answers and feeling hopeless is a hard place to be in when you are hurt and angry. 

We deal with choices and decision making all day long on a daily basis. At home, at work, with family and friends, we have choices to make every day. Many of those choices turn out to be a decision we made that worked out well for us and we move on. 

Conflict happens when those choices or decisions we made are not what "we" wanted or desired. Sometimes those conflicts can manifest out of control. Here is what Relational Wisdom expert Ken Sande says about conflict that has manifested out of control.

Harmful conflict is usually triggered by unmet desires. “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don’t get it” (James 4:1-2). Even good desires can evolve into controlling demands or idols that lead us to judge others and then avoid or punish them until we get what we want (see Luke 10:38-42). This progression often starts with minor differences, but before we know it we’re sliding down a slippery slope of conflict that can drop off in two directions.

Let us help you find answers to your conflict so you can move on with your life!

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I was overwhelmed and confused.  I didn’t even know where to start. I was referred to Ceasefire by my Pastor.  Shelly explained the process, what I could expect and what was available.   She listened and provided sound advice.  She walked me through and continues to provide expert care.  I appreciate all the help and would highly recommend her.  She is the best! -CB

Shelly is amazing. When I sought her advice, she was quick to respond and was able to meet with me almost immediately. I quickly opened up to her because she made me feel at ease from the start. Shelly is empathetic, caring, and knows about a variety of useful resources to help with mediation, co-parenting, conflict resolution, and documentation (many resources which I am now using). Also, she shared her own experiences, which gave me a sense of not feeling so alone in this process. I feel blessed to have gotten the opportunity to meet with Shelly and get her insight and advice, and I highly recommend her to others. -KW

About Shelly Mathews

CeaseFire Mediation is owned and operated by Shelly Mathews, a Christian Conciliator, Credentialed Mediator and Parent Coordinator. Shelly is passionate about helping parties gain clarity and discover empowerment through some of the hardest times in their life.

Shelly's training and experience allows her to provide a process that is an alternative to our society's traditional means which helps consenting parties reach better long-term outcomes.

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Shelly Mathews is an actively practicing Christian Conciliator, Credentialed Mediator, and Parenting Coordinator in Central Texas. Shelly has training in Relational Wisdom 360, Mediation, Advanced Family Mediation, Child Protective Services,  Parenting Coordination, and Parenting Plans. Shelly is a student of the Relational Wisdom 360 program and a member of the Texas Association of Mediators, Texas Mediator Credentialing Association, Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, and the Texas Association of Family and Conciliation Courts.


Shelly obtained a master’s degree in Conflict Resolution and Management from Abilene Christian University. Shelly has a passion for helping families work through their conflict which begins with identifying and managing conflict through assessments, followed by developing future goals, and creating a plan of action.


Prior to entering private practice, Shelly has previous employment at Family Abuse Center as the Director of Legal Services and Outreach where she acted as a legal advocate for victims of domestic violence and a law enforcement liaison for Waco Police Department and McLennan County Sheriff’s Office. Shelly has previously sub-contracted with Child Protective Services as a Home Study Specialist where she obtained experience assessing the placement for children in CPS care.

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Community is important to me. I serve my community by participating as the Relational Care Director at Renovation Church. The Relational Care Ministry offers support groups such as DivorceCare, GriefShare and The Peacemaker Study. For more information visit the Renovation Church website at www.rcwaco.com.